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5 Myths About Divorce in New York

Oct 17

Posted by Charles Messina in The 5's, Uncategorized | No Comments

There are a lot of misconceptions about Divorce in New York State.  People hear things from their brother in Pennsylvania, and their old friend from high school who got divorced 10 years ago, and are willing to take their word for it on how things will work out.  Here are a few common myths and the lowdown on how things really work:

  1. The Mother always gets the kids:  Not quite.  In New York, there is no preference for the Mother to have custody of the children over the Father.
  2. The Father has to pay child support no matter what:  Actually, the non-custodial parent generally pays child support to the custodial parent.  If the Father is the custodial parent, barring certain additional considerations, the Mother will often be required to pay child support to the Father.
  3. If we get divorced, my spouse gets half of everything:  Actually, New York is an “Equitable Distribution” state, not a “Community Property” state.  This means that assets and debts are distributed according to what is “equitable” not just a quick division of half.
  4. I can get a divorce for irreconcilable differences:  No you can’t.  There are only certain grounds for divorce in New York and irreconcilable differences is not one of them.
  5. At least  my pension is safe, my spouse can’t get to that:  Wrong.  A pension accrued during the course of a marriage is considered marital property to the extent it was accrued during the marriage.  Pensions are often distributed in a divorce by way of a QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order).

In New York, the courts generally want to do what is fair, or equitable between the parties in a divorce.  Sometimes old myths prove true, though usually not for the reasons that one might think.  New York is still stuck in the age of the dinosaurs in some respects (like no “no-fault” divorce statute) but is rather progressive in others.  I personally think that equitable distribution is a more equitable way (pun intended) to distribute property and debt than everyone taking half, regardless of whether they ran up a $50,000 credit card bill 2 months prior to filing for divorce.

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Intro to New York Courts

Oct 9

Posted by Charles Messina in Intro to, Uncategorized | No Comments

This is my first foray into the world of blogging!  Go me!

I’m going to try to address this blog toward developments, issues, and oddities of matrimonial and family law in the State of New York.  It’s an ever changing field, sometimes on a daily basis.  Now you may be asking, “who the heck are you and why are you blogging about New York matrimonial and family law… and what exactly is matrimonial and family law?”  Those are good questions!

I am Chuck Messina, father of 2, husband of 1, mediocre hockey player, and attorney extraordinaire (licensed in New York).  I live in Buffalo New York, and I have had the privilege of working for some of the finest matrimonial and family law practitioners around.  I enjoy my chosen field, though it is not for those with a weak stomach, and I genuinely enjoy talking about it.

Matrimonial law is, generally speaking, the law of divorce, and all that goes with it.  This field encompasses grounds for divorce, equitable distribution of property (and debts, to the chagrin of many), custody of children, visitation issues, child support, spousal maintenance and all ancillary matters.

Family law kind of goes hand in hand with matrimonial law.  Family law runs the gamut from paternity, custody and visitation, to family offenses, PINS (Persons In Need of Supervision) Petitions right through adoption, child support and guardianship.

In New York, only the Supreme Court (our trial level court) has jurisdiction to hear a divorce proceeding.  The Supreme Court is a court of nearly unlimited jurisdiction and can hear controversies in regard to any matrimonial or family law issue.

On the other hand, the Family Court is a court of limited jurisdiction.  It may only hear matters that are specifically set forth in the New York State Constitution, or a relevant statute, such as the Family Court Act.  Family Court may not, for instance, hear an action for divorce.

With regard to certain matters, the Supreme Court and the Family court have concurrent jurisdiction.  This means that both courts are able to hear matters, such as custody of a child, or child support matters.

I think this is a good first step in my blogging career, and I hope it provides a little insight into the court system in New York State for those lacking familiarity with it.

Next up, the New York Domestic Relations Law (DRL) and the Family Court Act (FCA), recent changes and new requirements.

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